Self esteem is based on how we feel when we look in the mirror or talk about ourselves. Self esteem is; knowing we are worthy of love and respect and accepting our limitations and boundaries. Self esteem is how we see ourselves and how we feel about our achievements.
Self esteem comes from internal sources. When we have healthy self esteem we feel comfortable with ourselves and do not dependent on anyone else to make us feel good about ourselves. Healthy self esteem allows us to be confident and aware of our strengths and abilities. We understand that everyone has strengths and weaknesses and accept that we are not perfect.
Healthy self esteem is important because it gives us the courage to try new things and the power to believe in ourselves. It leads to us respecting ourselves, even when we make mistakes. When we respect ourselves, other people usually respect us too. Healthy self esteem helps us make good choices about our mind and body. It leads to us valuing our health, feelings, and safety. Healthy self esteem helps us know that every part of us is worth caring for and protecting.
Social media are interactive computer-mediated technologies that facilitate the creation or sharing of information, ideas, career interests, and other forms of expression via virtual communities and networks. It is a websites and applications that enable users to create and share content or to participate in social networking.
Social media is computer-based technology that facilitates the sharing of ideas, thoughts, and information through the building of virtual networks and communities. Users engage with social media via computer, tablet, or smart phone via web-based software or web application, often utilizing it for messaging.
Social media is the series of websites and applications designed to permit people to share content quickly, efficiently and in real-time. The interaction can occur in many forms.
FACTORS AFFECTING SELF ESTEEM
Self-esteem is a part of the self-concept that judges one's ability in comparison with any internal criterion or expectation, as one particular object, positive and negative attitudes toward the self, an evaluation of the value formed by an individual to form and maintain his/herself, individuals' evaluation of their potential behavior and evaluation of others, self-esteem, as a reflective appraisal, is not a feeling of self-superiority but an attitude of respect for oneself. Self-esteem is self-worth as an attitude, an evaluation, and an emotion on one's own value or ability, an evaluation of self including happiness and satisfaction, subjective judgment and evaluation of one's value as a human being, and an assessment of self-concept.
Self-esteem is a self-assessment of self as a powerful force possessed by an individual and a personal value judgment that continuously sees itself as a worthy person while evaluating himself positively, a self-assessment of self-worth and importance and self-responsibility, a positive value to self, an image of self, and confidence and belief in self, self-esteem is to see yourself as a worthy being, knowing who you are. Self-esteem refers to how much an individual feels himself or herself, and is used synonymously with self-worth, self-esteem, and so on.
However, there are various factors that affect self esteem such as:
i. Physical look: your physical look can affect the way you feel about yourself. Some people see others to be more beautiful and acceptable than they look. You must understand that everyone is unique in their own way and are created with purpose. Appreciate your look and believe in yourself.
ii. Appearance: appearance in the public and before your peers can either improve or lower your self esteem. When you feel that your peers are more dressed and appear classy than you, you tend to have a low self esteem. Understand that what is more important is how you feel about yourself and what makes you comfortable. In as much as you must dress and appear presentable, make sure what you wear is what you are comfortable with.
iii. Confidence: lack of self-confidence can lower one’s self esteem. You must first of all believe in yourself before people can. You must understand that the way you see yourself is same way people will see you.
SOCIAL MEDIA AND SELF ESTEEM
There are a lot of socio cultural factors that have been shown to impact self esteem such as the media, TV, advertising, music videos, magazines, socio-economic status, personality, mental health, and support from family members. These factors can lead to appearance related social comparison which can result in worse psychological functioning.
From the research project carried out by some final year students, we found out that individuals with high self-esteem show more downward social comparison compared to those with low self-esteem. With the emergence of social media sites social comparison has become a lot easier for adolescents, with approximately 90% of them active online day and night. Research has shown that adolescents both show downward social comparison and upward social comparison. Upward social comparison refers to those who compare themselves to others who seem to be in a better place in life and downward social comparison is when an individual compares himself to others that seem worse off.
The use of social media accounts such as Facebook, Snapchat, Instagram etc. has increased dramatically. It has been stated that one third of the world´s population is active on social media. Social media use and its increase have created a new research platform and it has become more evident that there is need to further examine how social media can influence various aspects of life, including adolescents’ self-esteem.
Social media and self-esteem have revealed that those who spend more time on social media report lower levels of self-esteem. Addictive social media use has shown it to be correlated with self-esteem. It has been shown that those who spend more time on social media show upward social comparison which can have a negative effect on adolescents. With this increase in social media use adolescents tend to evaluate their own self worth and popularity based on how many friends they have or how many likes they get on their profile pictures on Facebook. Spending a great amount of time on social media can increase the risk for both depression and social
Self-esteem is an important factor influencing everything such as speech, behavior, judgment, choice, and emotion, which is called 'the measure of mental health.' Therefore, children and adolescents with low self-esteem tend to succumb to immoral and illegal behavior.
When our self esteem is high we view life in a positive way, feel confident, view difficulties as challenges, and are able to be assertive and say yes to what we want and feel and do not allow others to treat us badly. High self esteem allows us to believe in our self worth and, stand up for ourselves.